South Asian drag queen Rahezur “Rae” Rahman (@missjalebibebe) isn’t afraid to get a little messy with his chosen family. Centered by a group that helps him feel loved, supported, and never judged, the content creator is all about throwing out your manners and being your most authentic self — no matter how nasty. He likes his Drag Family Brunch extra spicy in both the courses (biryani, samosas, and English tea) and the kiki. In his own words, “Eat up, bitch!”

Picking the right people (blood or not) to always be by your side; to support through the ups and downs; and to love you always! To never judge your decisions but help you grow as a person.

Always being there for me when I need it. They are my emotional support system. Who needs therapy when you have chosen family, right?

I am having good old British tea, only because I want to dip my favorite Asian biscuits into it.

Like I am whole. I don’t feel lonely, afraid, or worried about my future. I just feel happy in that present time.

Always has to be my Bangladeshi food or some spice, girl. Every one of my meals needs a bit of a kick to it!

Eat up, bitch!

I definitely feel empowered that I have created a dish — it makes me feel like I am not completely useless. I love to eat with my chosen family because I don’t need to worry about being polite or having manners. Fuck that! They get to see the real nasty me. ;)

I think you’ve just got to be the real bitchy you. Don’t hold back. They love you for you! Don’t ever change for anybody! And maybe get them to have some alcoholic drinks or some good medicine (if you know what I mean…).

• Biryani, fried with onions and a biryani mix (because I am lazy)
• Fried vegetable samosas (peas, potatoes, carrots, sweet corn, cumin seeds, green chillies, mustard seeds, coriander, herbs, spices, salt, sugar, and citric acid)
• Tea using PG Tea bags, semi-skimmed milk and one sugar
• Assortment of biscuits from an Asian supermarket
• Macarons
• A spicy lamb fatayer with salad, mint, and hot sauces.

Being Asian, we always have to welcome our guests with food — especially the good Asian food we keep stored away for guests. So for the brunch, I had to do it Desi style. I loved my Desi food growing up and can never imagine not eating it. I love spice… I can’t do no plain old boring English food. No ma’am.

It’s kind of a sad story, but I got kicked out of my house a while ago so I had to learn to cook for myself. I have always known how to cook — my mother taught me here and there. But that was long forgotten since I had no need to cook at home. Being independent and missing my Bengali food, I forced myself to learn and I am very proud of how much I can cook now all by myself.

My biggest tip for Bengali food is that we use the same base for all the curries. For me, it’s turmeric powder, chili powder, ground coriander and cumin (only with meat curries). Once you’ve got the base locked down, then whatever main ingredients you add is a breeze.